For three decades, Emma Flint felt like a puzzle missing its final piece. The English writer knew her sexual attractions changed over time, but without language to describe this experience, she felt lost. That all changed when she discovered the term “abrosexual” – and finally saw herself reflected in the spectrum of human sexuality.
Abrosexuality describes people whose sexual orientation isn’t static but fluid. Flint’s experience typifies this: years identifying as lesbian, followed by periods of attraction to men, then no one, then back again. “I wasn’t being indecisive,” she explains. “My attractions genuinely evolved, and I needed to honor that truth.”
What makes abrosexuality distinct is its focus on the changing nature of attraction rather than the gender(s) involved. An abrosexual person might feel pansexual one month, asexual the next, and heterosexual later – with all phases being equally authentic.
Flint’s story underscores how crucial representation is. “So many people feel broken because they don’t have words for their experience,” she notes. By sharing her journey, she hopes to normalize sexual fluidity and remind others that there’s no “right” way to experience attraction – only your truth.
